I, as well as a few other gurus advocate being aloof around women. At the same time, we also advocate being energetic and using dating game*. We’re basically sitting here telling you that you should be one way, and then another. So which way is the right way to be? Well, it depends, really. On what? It depends on how women perceive you. What the hell am I talking about? BBW expect men to be a certain way. If a woman sees you as one of the more attractive guys, then she expects you to act as if you are above her, ala be aloof. In her mind, this solidifies that yes, you are one of the more attractive guys and she made the right decision to talk to you (or let you talk to her). Being aloof in this situation basically says that you are use to having BBW of her caliber be attracted to you.

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Good-looking guys make the mistake of showing emotion (aka using game). Showing emotion really is a mostly reactive trait. When chubby women are around guys that they’re really attracted to, they’ll get all emotional, whether they’re drooling, laughing, trying to impress, or fumbling with their words. Guys do the same thing around oversized women that they’re attracted to. And this is where a lot of good-looking guys mess up. A girl is initially attracted to said men, but when they start showing emotions and using game, women start second-guessing whether or not they really are attracted to these men, and in most cases, they decide that they aren’t.

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Then when is it good for a guy to actually show emotion (use game)? It works to your benefit to show emotion when you know you aren’t one of the more physically attractive guys. In this situation you need to take a big risk and show emotion, in particular, risk trying to make a girl laugh or be more aggressive then you usually are. This is the only way that you’re going to be able to stand out around the more physically attractive guys. As you can see, showing emotion isn’t necessarily bad, but it is just risky. It can make you appear more attractive, or less attractive, depending on how a chubby woman takes your show of emotions. On one hand, she can laugh and take a liking to you, but at the same time, she might not find you funny at all, and think that you are a dork. And on one hand, she can be turned on by your show of aggressive behavior, but at the same time, she could think that you’re being overly aggressive, and be completely offended by your aggressiveness. It really is just a roll of the dice, but if you aren’t one of the more attractive guys around, then it is a chance that you have to take in order to get noticed.

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If you’re one of the better-looking guys, then it is a mistake for you to show any kind of emotion. Well, it’s not necessarily a mistake, because it can work out in your favor. However, what I am saying, is that it is an unnecessary risk that you don’t have to take, therefore, you should mostly be aloof or display very neutral emotions (it’s OK to laugh and smile every now and then). Before I end, I know that every single guy reading this is thinking that he is one of the more attractive guys around. You need to take a more serious look at yourself. If you’re 5’ tall, but got rated a 10 on hot or not because you put up a glamor shot, it doesn’t mean that you’re one of the hottest guys around when you go out, as height is an important factor for BBW in determining your physical attractiveness.**It sounds harsh, but I’m just keeping it real so you can make the right decisions when you’re talking to women. Lying to yourself isn’t going to make oversized women any more attracted to you.

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At the same time, don’t underestimate your looks. If you’re a guy that is 6’5”, but isn’t quite the pretty boy in the face, it doesn’t mean that BBW don’t find you to be one of the more attractive guys around. If you walk into a club, and you’re towering over most of the guys there, then chances are that you’re going to be getting a lot of looks from women (provided you don’t have sub-par clothes or a dorky demeanor [I’ve seen some very dorky-looking tall guys]). Obviously, the easiest way to figure out where you stand is to just approach BBW women with a very aloof attitude, and just see how they react to you. If they’re usually dismissive of you, then you need to be risky by showing emotions (game). If they’re usually very accepting of you, then stick with being aloof. And remember, this isn’t a post about you looking better than me, or me looking better than you. It is a post about how you should proceed when you’re going after women. If you’re one type of guy, then using game (showing emotion) is probably the best thing to do, but if you’re another type of guy, then using dating game would be taking an unnecessary risk.

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*When I say “using game”, I’m not talking about slipping in the occasional smooth line or casual joke. I’m referring to the more extensive type of game, such as intentionally pushing a girl’s buttons, trying to force jokes, and using routines that a girl will either love, or catch onto and instantly become unnattracted to you. Even if you are, let’s say a funny guy like myself, you should tone it down if you’re one of the more attractive guys. Yes, there are girls who might love you for being funny, and your friends might love it as well, but if you come at a new girl this way, she might take it as you intentionally trying to be funny, and write you off as a dork. **I’ve seen short guys be aloof around women and pull them with ease. It really just depends. Smooth from the blog is a short guy, doesn’t use game, and gets ass with ease, but then again, Smooth is a very naturally good-looking guy who dresses top notch. Height doesn’t determine how attractive you are. The point is that you should just get out in the field and let women determine how physically attractive you are.

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